A little throwback of Josh and Jake practicing his “get dressed” cue for putting his gentle leader on himself👍🏻🤓 . . . .
We always aim to help dogs feel comfortable and make their own choices so that we’re not putting any pressure on them. By making things (like putting a head halter on) a fun thing to them instead of weird object that hangs on their face and bugs them.
*WARNING: This caption may be triggering for those who have been in abusive relationships.*
Also, this will be an extra long one, like into the comments long - so for anyone who takes the time to read it, I thank you!❤
I often come across posts on IG about empaths and narcissists, referring to how empaths and narcissists are attracted to one another, how the empath needs to "protect" himself/herself from certain individuals. The fact that empathy is being portrayed as a weak, almost dangerous trait makes it clear that we don't actually understand empathy. .
True empathy is a beautiful thing. It is about love. It is about respect. True empathy enforces firm, healthy boundaries for the sake of ourselves and the other. It is being able to walk around in another's shoes, to see the world through eyes that may differ from our own. It's not about losing ourselves in that person, absorbing all of their emotions, and leaving ourselves unable to function in a healthy way. True empathy is the cure for an abusive relationship, not the cause of it.
Any person who is described as the victim of someone like a narcissist, is not practicing empathy. They are struggling with codependency issues such as low self-worth, poor boundaries, attachment issues, and behaviors such as enabling (which is really what allows abuse to continue in the first place), and usually reenacting a previous abusive relationship. We are attracted to the familiar, good or bad, so a lot of people will end up developing trauma bonds and calling them love. .
I consider myself an HSP, and like many people, I used to throw around the term empath a lot, often using it to explain and justify all of my unique challenges. But I wanted to dig deeper to learn and grow. I explored the HSP trait more in depth and began connecting all the dots. It became more and more obvious to me that much of what I previously believed to be pure, love driven empathy was my innate sensitive nature totally exacerbated by an overall unhealthy childhood environment, leading to hypersensitivity to everyone and everything around me. Oh, and those codependency issues. 😬
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Credit to from @furkidsadopt
) - 🆘🚨THIS BREAKS MY HEART 💔😢😭 #A1865302
Seymour has been at the shelter since #June
6. He was in a tiny cage for TWO MONTHS then adopted for a hot minute & immediately returned! CATS NEED TIME TO DECOMPRESS AND ADJUST TO THEIR NEW HOME LIFE!!!! Imagine the stress and psychological strain if you were locked in a itty bitty cage for 2 months with nothing to do! This is a perfect example of why more Rescues need to pull from North Central because through a foster home the rescue will learn the personality of the cat & know what type of home is right for him/her. By the way even after #ClearTheShelters
yesterday every cage is STILL FULL! This shelter needs Networking and ADOPTIONS/FOSTERS! Seymour is an absolute doll. And now his #behavior
box is marked with yellow high lighter. I’m not exactly sure what that means⁉️⁉️ I really hope there’s a perfect adopter for Seymour before he starts shutting down here!!!!!!!!!!! Please pledge to entice a RESCUE 💘 🎀🐾🎀
Every cat is Urgent! If you see a #cat
you like do not hesitate! Go to the shelter & adopt! ▪️▪️▪️▪️North Central LA City Shelter
3201 Lacy St.
Los Angeles, CA 90031
Tues-Sat: 8AM - 5PM
Sun 11AM - 5PM
▪️ Pledges are donations to secure a #CatRescue
if the #kitty
is not adopted by the public. 🎀 #furkidsadopt #rescue #catadoption #northcentral #northcentralshelter #lacityshelter #adoptedthenreturned #returned
Children are constantly evolving and learning how to express themselves, their needs and their wants. They learn from the role models in their life. They try things on and test things out. It's often up to you and how you respond as the safe and loving parent that determines the future of those words, actions or behaviors. They are often experimenting with different ways while they learn social cues, limits and boundaries.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It's important to remember that instead of trying to "fix" the unwanted behavior initially, reconnection is key. Fill up their cup. Shower them with a moment of attention, presence and love. They are likely in need of reconnection, have an unmet need or something that is leaving them unsettled. This unwanted behavior is communicating this to you in sometimes the only way they know how. They can also be struggling with something else and need your support. Get down on their level, tune into your child, see what's going on and be available for whatever needs to come out.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Also, remember, so often behaviors are learned. Is there any part of the situation that you as the conscious parent have to own? In recognizing this, you can model the tone and language you would like them to use in the future. If you present yourself in a loving and kind way, your child is ready to absorb your words and actions. If you give into the trigger and get angry with them, and then model adult unwanted behavior, it's a lost opportunity to give them future positive tools. If you react in the moment versus consciously respond most children will shut down as a defense mechanism, which makes it much more difficult for them to hear you. Take a step back next time your child communicates in this way; slow down, listen to them and come in to help from a place of love. ✨
Cat Behavior: Things Your Cat Wants to Tell You😍 Wish you had a secret decoder guide to cat language and behavior? Here’s a primer to things your cat wishes you understood.
Please do not disturb my nap on your laptop or keyboard
You people talk and talk about how much you need to work on the computer so you wake us up and push us off, but we know what you’re really planning to do on them: watch videos of cats. Weird. Don’t you humans realize that cats must get an average of 12 to 16 hours of shut-eye a day, or w... 🔎Read More: https://www.healthpixy.com/cat-behavior-things-your-cat-wants-to-tell-you/?feed_id=333&_unique_id=5d59eec73d9bc
#behavior #things #wants
Those of us who wish to learn another language may feel dazzled by the idea of conversing in #French
, but there is unfortunately nothing romantic about the path to fluency: the endless memorization, struggles with grammar, the surprised reactions from native speakers when we utter the wrong word.⠀
Luckily, we’ve narrowed in on a few behaviorally informed strategies for developing habits that have helped maintain and grow language skills, and may be useful for attaining other types of goals as well:⠀
1️⃣ Identify the hassles and find the sweet spot for habit formation⠀
2️⃣ Acknowledge incremental rewards, and set clear, measurable goals⠀
3️⃣ Believe you can (speak the language)⠀
Learn more about these strategies by clicking the link in the bio ☝️☝️☝️⠀
#language #bilingual #learning #education #spanish #italian #swahili #german #world #globe #behavior #tips #strategy @duolingo @coffeebreaklanguages @babbel