Divorce is often perceived as a failure. The process of starting over can be difficult and overwhelming. A great deal of strength is required. It is rarely the ‘easy way out’. When you have children, it becomes even more complex. While it is true some children face difficulties through this transition either emotionally or behaviourally, it is not all doom and gloom. Your daughter is not any more likely to be a crazy cat lady and your son a criminal just because their parents get divorced. It is all going to be OK, so take a few deep breaths and relax while we discuss the positive impact of divorce on children.
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From movies, to relationship books, to songs, to tv shows & even our generation family lines, this is not working & to be honest it never did
Many will say “Back in the day it worked” but I find that many issues that we’re facing is coming from those homes we say worked
Some will say “Well no relationship is perfect” again we’re not discussing perfection, we’re talking about dysfunction that we’ve disguised as normal
No you shouldn’t deplete all your energy, trust, love, & bank account to be considered a good woman only to be left so empty that you don’t have the strength to move on!
No you shouldn’t have to accept being mistreated, waiting around to see if he’ll change, ignore your intuition only to be resentful later because you thought the struggle love was going to eventually give you the love you hoped for
No you shouldn’t accept verbal & physical abuse believing that this is apart of the “I have to endure this to be loved” process
No you don’t have to invest 20 years of hell with someone only for them to finally see that you’re the one for them only to look like what you’ve been through
No it’s not a badge of honor to deal with this! There’s nothing honorable about choosing someone over yourself!
Many will tell you to pray about it & keep holding on when you should pray about it & release him to God! Let him fix it & NOT YOU, he’s better at this
These struggle love stories are so praised that it's become commendable to love a broken man. But what we must understand is that he has to be willing to acknowledge that he has unresolved issues & do what is required of him to go through the process of getting through it & NOT YOU
When you constantly go through the struggle love with someone then guess who ends up struggling to love themselves? YOU
You place your needs to the side
Your worth constantly diminishes
You start losing yourself
& it’s not worth it
Love yourself enough to know that he can’t receive your love right now. Know that your love is valuable & if you attempt to love him in a brokenness that he doesn’t see in himself, you’ll compromise your heart when you should guard it
No one is an island, even the toughest introverts desire companions in their very quiet lives....companionship just spice up life. .
Someone wrote "Without sexual desire, the human species would become extinct in one generation"....so I believe it's okay to desire it...but some Faith prohibits the act of Sex itself out of wedlock..and if that's your Faith, keep it, even if you haven't been, it's not late to start. .
And no matter how independent you may be, times may come when you need support for a good course from some other person, and who best can it be, if not one as close as a partner..'two heads are better than one', you know. .
Though I have being coping well without all 3, I absolutely miss and desire all 3....yeah✌
Done, Katie Holmes & Jamie Foxx
What a 19 August 2019
RIP Laura Haddock & Sam Claflin
19 August 2019
𝘍𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘨𝘰
𝘍𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘺 𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘨𝘰
𝘈 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘨𝘰...
In 2014 I was scared, tired, lost, uncomfortable, doubtful and out of control.
Today in 2019 I am still scared, tired, and a little lost. But I took a leap of faith. I took that hardest step which is trusting who I was!
It didn’t start with an at home workout for me. That came later. It didn’t start with changing my hair color, that came later. It didn’t start with stepping back from toxic relationships, that came later. It started with an idea. An idea to TRY!
Try to block out the noise of other people’s expectations.
Try to extinguish the negativity (insecurities, fears, and worries)
Try to take baby steps!
Try to follow my heart - this one is huge. If you are living a life guided by someone else’s choices, I don’t think you will ever feel awesome. This is still a difficult one, but just think how much further on my journey I will be when I figure it out!!
Just try a little self-care. Yes I get made fun of, and yes people roll their eyes.
Try to stop listening to other people’s opinions. Their opinions don’t matter!
Make a promise to yourself. After all, you don’t like disappointing other people, so why should you be okay with continuously disappointing yourself?
And when you are ready to move your body, and respect your body, let me know! We can have some fun together!!
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Qué sensación la de sentirse solo mientras la otra persona le muestra al mundo una felicidad impostada.