If you are actually playing a game and enjoying it and giving your best, you won’t even be aware of how you are doing. You will just be fully present and in the moment, just playing not noticing any mistakes you make or what you do or don’t do well. In this state, in this play, you give yourself the best chance to reach your potential. You’re not focused on how you appear, you’re just having fun, just playing. But how do you get to this state or stay there?
People say “he’s in his own head, or he’s beating himself,” well what are they actually saying? They’re saying this guy is too focused on keeping score and tallies in his head of how his past actions are relating to the standard he thinks he’s supposed to live up to. He’s not executing how he desires so he’s getting frustrated and thinking about how silly he is and all the consequences that can or will occur because he’s not doing well.
Some may say he’s too aware of how he’s doing, too concerned on himself, he’s never focused, in the moment, so he has no real chance of playing “well” or playing at all because his mind is elsewhere in the past, not up to speed in the current situation. This issue comes down to one main cause. We all struggle with it at some level. It’s name is Pride.