I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. Just because I had an eating disorder does not mean I don’t still like food, doesn’t mean I don’t get to enjoy food, doesn’t mean I deserve to get looked at with judging eyes.
I am not an alien. I am not crippled, or broken, or strange because I had an eating disorder.
We need to stop putting so many words to describe people out into the world that leave them with scars and a stigma cloud floating around them that they carry with for years.
Years people, years of words floating in my head, along with those of the shitty mind gremlin of my own, but words of people I have heard with my own ears.
“Aren’t you going to eat some vegetables?”
“You’re going to get a salad right?”
“I’ll take your cookies since you aren’t going to eat them...oh you are? Are you sure?”
You need to speak kindness and compassion into the world people someone hears it, and for all you know, it could be devastating for them.
So, be nice, don’t judge, and get it out of your head that people with eating disorders don’t get to enjoy the food they eat. That only fuels the sadness and really truly makes you look like clueless pig.
6 Simple Ways to Train Your Brain for Happiness, According to Science
Very small changes can have a very big effect on your emotional outlook.
1. Ask yourself if you're thinking positive. That's because of a phenomenon called metacognition, a fancy word for thinking about thinking, which is a powerful memory aid. Asking yourself regularly whether you're thinking positively will help you remember to focus on the positive 2. Memorize a list of happy words. It's because when you force your brain to use positive words frequently, you make these words (and their basic meaning) more accessible, more connected, and more easily activated in your brain. So when you go to retrieve a word or idea from your memory, positive ones can come to the top more easily 3. Use associations. Ivan Pavlov famously trained his dogs to drool whenever he rang a bell, by associating the sound of the bell with food in their minds. You can train yourself the same way, creating associations that you can use to your own advantage 4. Practice gratitude. There's plenty of evidence that being grateful for the good things in your life, even very simple things, will make you happier. So every morning before getting out of bed, I mentally list three things I'm thankful for 5. Spend a few minutes each day writing about something that made you happy. In a fascinating experiment, subjects were asked to spend 20 minutes every day writing about an "intensely positive" experience. A control group was simply asked to write about a neutral topic. The group who wrote about positive experiences reported greater levels of happiness--and made fewer trips to the doctor over the next three months 6. Celebrate your successes, even the small ones. we have a tendency to minimize our own accomplishments (I know I do), and that we should fight that tendency by going out of our way to congratulate ourselves when we do something right. #happiness #science #emotionaloutlook #positive #phenomenon #fancy #thinking #powerful #happy #happywords #memory #mind #gratitude #grateful #simple #thankful #life #celebrate #success #celebrate #accomplishment