is something very personal. A lot of people say “ oh, but you have to forgive to move on...” I personally believe that’s a terrible way to put unnecessary #shame
on survivors. Even if you also experienced #abuse
, only the person that went through what they did know what actually feels like, even if we empathize. I believe it’s part of the healing process feeling very angry at the #abuser
, especially once one is out of the fog ( fear, obligation, guilt) and #cognitivedissonance
. Once a person truly understands #narcissiticabuse
for what it is and naturally starts to heal, eventually they’ll see their own worth and realize they deserve to give themselves more than waste time thinking about the #narcissist
and all the abuse. That burden is eventually lifted as we shift focus inwards, this can be a way of ‘forgiving’, but not one should tell someone they should or shouldn’t forgive. It is the survivor’s choice.