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These two are the reason I try to be the best version of myself. Being a Mom didn't come naturally to me. I wasn't a little girl who's deepest desire was to be a Mom. I was told at 21 that my chances of having children were slim to none. I was completely okay with this. God had different plans. I haven't been the best Mom, I can fully admit that. It has been rough for several years. My hope is that I show my kiddos to NEVER give up. I don't need to be a perfect Mom for my kiddos. I only need to try to be the best version of myself for that day. One day at a time.
I had an epiphany moment when I first heard this. It felt like a weight had been lifted by these words- a weight I had been carrying around for a long time. I always cared too much about what other people thought of me. I still do at times- I tend to be a people-pleaser, which isn't my best quality. But I'm learning that making assumptions and overthinking only causes me suffering, and the negative stories I create in my head never turn out to be true.
What I've come to realize is that it doesn't matter what other people think as long as I'm being authentic and true to myself, and how can I be authentic when I feel the need to filter who I am to please others? The opinions of others is none of my damn business, nor should it matter.
If someone doesn't like you for who you are, well, it's really no loss to you and it's none of your business either. Live your life authentically and the people that do matter will stay; those that don't can leave. 🖤 ✌🏼
Tough Love Truth Bomb: If you refuse to learn or process a lesson, it will only show up in different forms.
Sometimes we’re not ready to learn the lesson, and that’s ok. Sometimes we need to add more tools to our emotional/mental toolbox to chip away, and that’s ok. But if we go around cutting people off, only stopping surface level habits, half-assing our healing, we might wonder why the same patterns keep arising.
Today, I give myself compassion, patience, and ask for courage to tackle the demons still wrestling around. ✨ Happy Monday, friend.
YOU are ultimately in control of making change. You are in control of the person you become. You’ll wake up tomorrow and have a second chance to do this life better. "You are in control of your own life. You get one and only one chance to live, and life is passing you by. Stop beating yourself up, and dang it, stop letting others do it too. Stop buying things you can’t afford to impress people you don’t even really like. Stop eating your feelings instead of working through them. Stop abusing your body and your mind. Stop! Just get off the never-ending track." - Rachel Hollis.
You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.
You don't need everything to be in alignment to start. I mean, getting started is the HARDEST PART!! You just have to make that decision and take ONE STEP.
Before I got sober, I had to make the decision that I was done. For good. No "I'll try to stop". I. Was. Done. And I meant it.
Before I started this health journey, I had to make the decision to invest in my health and overall well-being. Taking care of myself became important to me. Let me take care of myself FOR you. So I show up better. I live longer. I'm happier. I'm more optimistic about my life. I smile instead of turn away from the mirror. My kids have physical proof of what their mom looked like when they were young. She's IN the photos now, instead of always behind the camera.
Maybe the hardest part of life is just having the courage to try something new, throw you off course and open your eyes to the possibility out there. Believe in your POSSIBILITY, instead of focusing on the probability and see how your life can change.
Drop a 👊🏻 if you're committed to pushing yourself this week and trying something new!
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Monday Mindset: Let’s PARTAY!
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⏮ Memory-Lane Monday ⏭
5 years ago versus my 30th day into sobriety. —— Looking through old photos in nightclubs, I can typically vaguely remember the way a night begun, even if the tail end is a black hole.
I remember the context of the night on the left very well. —— It was a work night, and the girl in the background of the left photo was my best friend throughout my childhood. We drifted apart during our high school years when she moved to Dubai. This night, she was in town visiting and wanted to meet up for a few drinks to catch up, and reminisce. —— I was so nervous to see her again after so long, that naturally, I got as fucked up as possible, to feel confident around her. I insisted we did 4 shots a piece at our first bar, and what my friend was hoping would be an intimate night of reconnecting, turned into a night of raucous drinking in places where the music was always too loud to even hear each other at all. Needless to say, I didn’t make it into work the next day. —— That was how I dealt with “connection”. This was how I handled situations that made me nervous. Because I had no confidence that my sober self had anything meaningful, intelligent or interesting to contribute to a conversation. I did not believe in the girl on the left. ——
Today, I love real conversation. Intimacy and connection are what I crave. Being a naturally awkward person (I am British, so it sort of comes preinstalled) I still balk at the thought of a one on one with someone I do not know well. My anxiety still asks “but what if the conversation trails off into an awkward silence and I DIE from embarrassment??!”... But today, now, I believe in me. So I shrug to myself and say “so what if it does? Try and sit in comfortable silence. You’ll get through it either way, Lauren.” —— Gone are the days where I hide. I choose to be H E R E. Present. Connected. Real. —— Here’s to another week of sober authenticity my friends ✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻
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